Sahih Muslim Book - 11, Hadith - 2154

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ عَنْ هِشَامٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ ذُكِرَ عِنْدَ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّ ابْنَ عُمَرَ يَرْفَعُ إِلَى النَّبِىِّ -صلى الله عليه وسلم- « إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ يُعَذَّبُ فِى قَبْرِهِ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ ». فَقَالَتْ وَهَلَ إِنَّمَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ -صلى الله عليه وسلم- « إِنَّهُ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِخَطِيئَتِهِ أَوْ بِذَنْبِهِ وَإِنَّ أَهْلَهُ لَيَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهِ الآنَ ». وَذَاكَ مِثْلُ قَوْلِهِ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ -صلى الله عليه وسلم- قَامَ عَلَى الْقَلِيبِ يَوْمَ بَدْرٍ وَفِيهِ قَتْلَى بَدْرٍ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ فَقَالَ لَهُمْ مَا قَالَ « إِنَّهُمْ لَيَسْمَعُونَ مَا أَقُولُ ». وَقَدْ وَهَلَ إِنَّمَا قَالَ « إِنَّهُمْ لَيَعْلَمُونَ أَنَّ مَا كُنْتُ أَقُولُ لَهُمْ حَقٌّ ». ثُمَّ قَرَأَتْ (إِنَّكَ لاَ تُسْمِعُ الْمَوْتَى) ( وَمَا أَنْتَ بِمُسْمِعٍ مَنْ فِى الْقُبُورِ) يَقُولُ حِينَ تَبَوَّءُوا مَقَاعِدَهُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ.

It was narrated from Hisham that his father said: "It was mentioned in the presence of 'Aishah that Ibn 'Umar attributed to the Prophet (s.a.w) (the words): 'The deceased is tormented in his gave because of his family's crying (for him).' She said: 'He was mistaken; rather the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said: "He is being tormented because of his faults or sins, while his family are crying for him." This is like his saying: "The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) stood over the well of Al-Qalib on the Day of Badr, in which the slain idolators of Badr were, and said what he said to them: 'They hear what I am saying.' He was mistaken, rather he said: 'They realize that what I used to say to them is true.' Then she recited: "Verily, you cannot make the dead to hear." "But you cannot make hear those who are in graves.'"' He said: Meaning, when they had taken their places in Hell.